Nothing good comes from just being frustrated, until that frustration leads to action. When we are frustrated about a situation, or our life in general, we block our minds from finding any solutions to those things that can be changed. Our minds get so caught up in a seemingly endless parade of bad things we feel hopeless to ever find a way out. STOP!!
You can do something to change your situation. You just have to do SOMETHING!
Something wonderful happens when you just take action. Even little things that at first you think won’t matter. They do…they build. Before you know it, you are taking more action. Bigger bolder steps toward some control, and something better.
It’s a bit harder with relationships. Mostly because we get caught in the idea that if only the other person would change, everything would be better. It seems hopeless because more than likely, they are not going to do anything. My ex used to tell me “I can’t do that.” . Well honey, if you can’t do anything, then I guess it’s up to me. Think about one thing that you can do, that would make YOU feel good, and impact the relationship in a positive way. Stop focusing on all the things that are going wrong, or what he/she isn’t doing…just think of one thing that you can do. Do something completely from your heart that is in the right direction towards a positive. Just one thing.
Personally, with my ex, I did those things he told me would make him happy. After 15 years of doing that, and still getting no positive results, I realized that it was not those little that would make him happy, it was something much bigger something deeper. Doesn’t take away from my action…just lends itself to the bigger issues. Example: When we were first married, he had an issue with my shoes being all over the house. I got a shoe rack. Situation resolved. Well…not exactly. Time after time there would be something else to complain about. No matter how many times I fixed the “problem” he would find another. Bottom line is that there was a much deeper issue than the shoes, only I just didn’t know it at the time. The difference between the two of us…I was willing to take action to have a better life, and he wanted to just wallow in the frustration of life not being what he wanted.
Taking action isn’t about making someone else happy. It’s about you taking control and letting go of the frustration. You can’t make someone else do that. If you’re lucky, the result will be a happier, more fulfilled you. Sometimes that is enough to help get a relationship moving in the right direction.. Sometimes it is not enough. Do NOT let that discourage you…All I’m asking you to do is take some action yourself. No expectation that it will make a difference to someone else…but that it will make a difference inside of YOU.
I have given you a couple of ideas…You are capable of coming up with your own. Just start by letting go of the feelings of frustration and start to focus your mind on solutions. If you give your mind some space, it will begin to find the steps that you can take.
If, for any reason, you are unable to clear your mind enough to get an idea…shoot me your problem. Pick something that causes you to be frustrated, and we’ll see if together, we can’t come up with one small step you can take toward the right direction. It’s often easier for someone to look at it from the outside rather then when we are up to our eyebrows in something. Give it over…just please have the courage to take some action!