Blame…if only!

Every man is the architect of his own life. He builds it just the way he wants it. However, after he has built what he wants, he sometimes decides that he doesn’t like what he has built and looks for someone or something to blame instead of changing himself.
Sydney Madwed

If only I were thinner.

If only he would change.

If only she would listen to me.

If only I had more money.

If only I had taken a left instead of a right.


You make a choice.  To do, or not to do.  Sometimes things turn out great!  Sometimes they suck beyond belief!!  You and only you are responsible for these choices.  Even if you make them in duress…YOU made the choice, YOU live with the outcome.  Don’t like it? Change something…change your job, change your eating habits, change your friends or change your attitude.

Stop blaming everyone and everything for making your life crap.

The painful truth is that life is NOT going to hand you all that you desire for a beautiful and fulfilled life.  You can have that at any moment you choose to.  It could be simply finding the joy in what you already have.  Maybe, you find new friends that make you feel good instead of the one’s always putting you down.   You could start freshening up your resume and looking for a better job.  Go clean out all the ugly clothes in your closet and keep only the one’s that make you feel sexy.  All of these things are well within YOUR control.

Until you grasp that you, and only you, control how happy or how sad you are, you are NEVER going to be happy with anyone or anything.  Even if your loved one does everything you ask them to, you are still going to find something wrong.  That peace, that joy, that beautiful warm feeling that you are longing for is right there for the taking.  It’s not on the outside.  You’re lover does not hold the key.  Your employer does not hold the key.  You’re children do not hold the key.  Both the lock and the key are inside of you…waiting for you to put them together.


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