We have all come across someone in our lives (perhaps it is you) who takes everything personally. I’m sure I don’t need to go into detail about this person…I’m sure as soon as you read that, someone came to mind.
Here’s something you may not have considered. Let’s say you are talking with someone. They are going on and on about how you could improve your life. How they have done this or that. You sit and listen are start feeling pretty bad about yourself. They point out how many times you have done something (they feel) is pretty stupid. Let me tell you…it’s not about you! No really, it’s not! Even though it sounds like it is.
There are people, I know this is shocking, that pick out every single flaw in you. You should do this with your hair, you should read this book, you should get this job….blah blah blah. It’s hard to really understand that they are not telling you any of this for your own personal betterment. It’s all about them. Pick you apart piece by piece because in the end it makes them feel better about themselves. For only a moment. Cause the truth about these people, even if you THINK they have it all together, they don’t and they don’t want you too either.
I have a wealth of experience when it comes to these kinds of people. My whole life has been spent with them, attracting them to me, and nurturing them. I’ve learned a lot. The biggest lesson is that it is NOT about me. No matter what they say, no matter how hard they try to convince you it is…It’s not. Trust me. I really do know this.
The amount of lessons on this single subject are nearly endless…For now I’m going to leave you with just one!
The next time you are with someone…and you find yourself feeling bad, for even just a moment, Stop! It’s not about you…you are not the problem here. Don’t take it personally, don’t let it hurt you. Just listen to them, smile and nod your head…It’s not about you, even if everything they are saying is about you. It’s still not. Embrace that! It’s one of those lessons that will make a world of difference in your dealings with people negative people.