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Don’t Stop Believing…Hold on to that fe-e-eling

Gratitude! Finally…Things are starting to look a little better. Honestly, what is really happening is that I am looking at things a little better.

I am a firm believer that you get what you expect from life, even if you don’t want to think you do.  When you walk around bemoaning life and circumstances, you get more things to keep you down.  If  you are willing  to look at life in an optimistic way, truly be optimistic to your core, see the good that is around you, you will have more good things to see.  Even if it’s as simple as being grateful for matching socks.

It’s not that I had forgotten that. I did allow myself to succumb to the less that pleasant moments and circumstances.  Yesterday I came across two videos that reminded me that I have more control over my life than I’m sometimes willing to admit.  I cannot control the asshole who thinks only of himself and is unable to appreciate what I am doing.  I do not have any control over anything or anyone outside of me.  What I do have control of is what is inside of me and how I feel about those things outside of me.  As much as I would love for there to be peace, love and compassion with everyone is my life…I can only create those things within myself.  I can show them peace, love and compassion and not expect to receive it in return.

Since I’ve loosened up my grip on all the unpleasant shit that’s been going on, things have started to show up to reaffirm my better attitude.  Little things, but each and every one of them has been acknowledged and accepted with a full and grateful heart.  This is how I keep that ball rolling.  Gratitude, for even the little things.  Case in point, thinking the item I was returning was the $9.95 item when in fact it was the $34.95 one (yes I should know what each item was, but whatever)!  Having warm weather and no rain on my son’s graduation…and allowing me to wear the kick ass dress I bought.  Finding just the right outfit for the boy, and him finding the dress shoes he already had.

These are not life altering events…or at least not on the surface.  Feeling grateful for each of these little things helps to align yourself with more things to be grateful for.  Which in turn, can most definitely be life altering.  This lesson has been shown to me over and over and over again, I’ve mentioned it before…and I know it is truth.  So much so, that those videos I watched reaffirm these truths, because when you ask to be shown, it will be shown to you.  Your truth…not what you hope to be true.  That’s a point too many of us fail to accept.

There is an underlying deep belief in me that everything will work out.  When I hold on to that, redirect myself to that truth when I’m feeling overwhelmed, the Universe delivers.  I know there are a lot of people out there that do not believe this, and I’m sure I can’t convince a lot of them with just my words…but that’s ok, my life and the “luck” some people think I have, is tied directly to this truth.

So, next time I’m lying awake feeling overwhelmed and broken…I will bring myself back to gratitude for all the little things that are right.  I will embrace it with every fiber of my being.  This, and this alone, will pull me out of the darkness and back on the path to the life I am blessed to have.




Enjoying the moment you’re in…right this second.

Here you are…sitting in front of your computer, avoiding something I’m sure.  Yeah, I know, I’ve been there.

How do you feel?  Are you frustrated?  Is there a nagging in your gut?  Is there something keeping you from enjoying this moment?


Are you feeling light?  Do you have an overall peaceful feeling?  Is there a smile on your face (even just a little one)?  Is there something or someone on your mind that makes you feel exuberant?

Which feels better?  Bad feelings make us feel sick, and make ugly wrinkles and those nasty frown lines.  They take away any chance we have of feeling good…about anything. It draws our focus on to more negative things, more things to feel bad about.  Next thing you know you’re in a worse place than before, and you haven’t even moved.

Change your focus.  Open up a file with pictures of your last adventure.  Email a friend or family member you miss.  Look around you and see that you are the champion of your life, and you are surrounded by love and warmth.  It’s there! No, really, I promise.  LOOK for it!!  Oh wait…maybe it’s closer than you think.  Maybe it’s right there in you.

Can you sit in traffic and feel peaceful?  Sure you can!  How about at the dinner table surrounded by people who don’t like you?  Yep!  When you grab a container of your favorite food, and it drops on the floor…can you look at it and laugh?  Uh huh…you sure can.   It’s about being in that place where you know there is more good around you, no matter what the circumstances are.

One example that puts all this right into perspective happened not to long ago.  I had invited my good friend over to chat, drink some wine and work on my puzzle (minor recent obsession).  The puzzle was set up in the dining room on a table cloth.  I had let the dog in, who ran to my friend, stepped on part of the tablecloth sending a glass of wine over.  My friend, being extremely quick, saved the glass…but the wine went all over the puzzle.  Talking to my friend after, she said she had a moment of panic…having dealt with other people knowing this was just the kind of situation that would have set a rather ugly mood for the rest of the evening.  I laughed at her sweet skills on saving the glass…and laughed while getting  the table cloth off, and cleaned up the mess.  We put the puzzle back together, and made some great progress.  Later we did discuss the situation, and how others seem to have such a hard time handling such a situation.  Those people are just NOT in the moment…and miss the joy we found saving all our hard work and laughing at the whole scene!

Life is so much better when you live to enjoy the moment you are in.  Stop looking so far ahead, you miss what is right in your face.  People talk about Karma… you get what’s coming to you.  What do you want that to be?  I believe wholeheartedly that you bring about what you think about.  Want more joy, see more joy.   Make the decision to enjoy this moment right now!  It’s like opening the floodgates to more good feelings.  However, it works both ways, but you probably already know that.

Right now enjoy!