It was the best of times…it was the worst of times.
Well, maybe not that dramatic, but working for a psychopath has its ups and downs.
I knew after the first week I was there that it was not the place for me. Although I have had a lifetime of experience with narcissists this guy took it to a whole new level. That coupled with the fact that I needed to be collecting a paycheck, made it that much harder to just up and leave. I wanted and need out like never before. In everything there is a lesson…I was going to have to hold on to that for 3 whole fucking years.
This is another of those situations where one moment I had complete faith in the Universe to provide so I jumped in with both feet, then the next I freeze and become “responsible”. Which really is just another word for scared. Instead of walking away from a horrible situation, I tried to reason with myself that this was meant to be. There is a lesson here I need to accept. You deserve this shit. Anything but have faith in myself, and in the Universe. So, I stayed, while it ate at me every day.
There were times when I would apply my fucking heart out…then peter out because it seemed like there was no hope in site. However, I never really gave up. After I had my fill of the insanity I dug my heels in and with the help of my friends, applied to anywhere and everywhere in hopes to find something that would get me out of that place.
At one point I was reaching out to everyone I had applied to in an effort to see if there was a chance to get an interview. Someone responded…then nothing. A few weeks later I sent another request and got that interview scheduled. Sort of long story short, I got the job!!! Close to home, small growing company, better pay and better hours. I was like having my prayers answered, and I was being rewarded for either putting up with 3 years of bullshit or for my persistence. Either way, I was on my way out, and I was going to do it my way.
People have quit this place before. I have seen them be humiliated, shamed and abused during the process. I have listened to lie after lie about why they left, how they were the problem to begin with…after 2 years one guy was still on the shit list and the boss still took every opportunity to bring him up and talk shit. I was NOT going to subject myself to that.
After I got the offer on the new job, I picked my quit date. It was going to be a Saturday when I would be the only one in the office, one therapist, and NO big boss. This was going to take almost two weeks. I was going to go out on MY terms, without notice and with my head held high. So, I wrote (with the help of the internet) a professional letter of resignation, explaining that for personal reasons, I would not be giving any notice, but that I knew my co-workers would be able to handle things in my absence.
Needless to say, I was nervous, and yet exhilarated by the thought that after all the abuse, the belittlement, the condensation and negativity I was finally going to be able to walk away. On that Saturday I showed up to work and did my job as usual. When it came time to leave, I took my name plate, office key and letter of resignation and put it on the assistant manager’s desk. I gathered up all my personal items, said goodbye to the therapist still there and sent an update to the assistant manager, manager and big boss on the happenings of the day. I closed with, please check your email for my letter of resignation.
I left. Walked out. Flipped off the building and made my way home. OOOOHHHHHH….I wonder what they all must be thinking. I’m sure that it was seconds before they were checking their emails and calling each other with a WTF????
The manager tried to call, she was worried about me. I was not falling for that shit. Then she emailed. I said I was fine, and that due to personal reasons, this is how it had to be. I gave no explanation.
When I got my final paycheck, I noticed that my vacation pay was not included. Being prepared for this (because I know who the fuck I’m dealing with) I sent an email asking when I could expect it. This is when I was told that is was a use it or lose it policy and that since I gave no notice and would not talk to them that they would not be honoring that. HA. Bitch, please…I was ready for this exact response.
I sent a follow up email advising that I had read through the office policies, and there was no mention of not receiving unused vacation upon termination. I also sent an excerpt and link to the Illinois dept of labor outlining that I did indeed have a right to that money. I clicked send. The email was returned….Send again, returned again. Apparently, my email was flagged for spam. OOOhhhhh, they are funny, but they totally underestimate me. So, I sent it through an alternate email, explaining that if I did not receive the vacation pay earned that I would be filing a complaint with the DOL and including this email along with the rejected effort marked as spam.
“Fine. It’s not worth arguing about.”
That was that…I got my money and was able to put that fucker and his insane business practice behind me once and for all!!!!
On to a better life…for a while anyway.